when we were young…

writing with passion, living with vision and acting with intention

How, now?


Like the kind that actually makes some cash to deposit into the humble bank account?

Up to this point, I have literally been Oliver’s lifeline – bottles are toys, not providers of sustenance. The last couple weeks, however, he is chowing down on pretty much anything we give him. I can almost hear your cheers of shared joy in the newly added hours of time that I can be away from him at a stretch.

But like most young families I can think of, this symbol of freedom comes with a few strings attached. In my case, we’re going on two months of unemployment for my husband and while he has managed to use his trade to his advantage and do some side jobs, it’s getting tight financially. That point together with snippets of conversation here and there, learning how other moms are/have contributed financially to their families has cultivated some angst and restlessness within. You might say it’s the universe telling me it’s time to take the next step.

So I am left with the questions of how? Questions with an ‘s’ because it isn’t even as simple as “how can I make some money?” That may solve one problem but give way to expose a few more. If I work, who looks after the boys (assuming my husband gets a job in the near future)? How do I continue to breastfeed my nine-month old when I am unable to pump more than a couple ounces at best? How do I support furthering our goals with where I am working?

And that is the biggest ‘how’ of them all. Here we are; five years in to our married lives, two children, 16 months apart and trying to figure out how to make ours and our children’s futures secure. Unemployment certainly doesn’t lend much to feeling that we are drawing closer to our goals each day.

And so, this is what we are setting out to do (in addition to finding work!).

planning, list, furthering goals

It is a series of some small, some big steps that we NEED to take in order to set the ball in motion.

It’s pretty hazy looking out right now, trying to see how things will play out. The fact is, we really don’t have a clue. It gives new meaning to that bit about resting in God’s will and believing that he is already in our futures. There’s a thought, that time is not linear. I subscribe to that belief.

So how do you plan for success? I would love to hear your story of how you overcame uncertainty in your circumstances.


Author: whenwewereyoung...

A stay at home mom of two boys under two, love TED talks, swing dancing and of course, writing. When we were young is my sharing of motherhood, the beautiful, the ugly, the happy, the sad and the world my boys are growing up in.

2 thoughts on “How, now?

  1. Great question! I don’t really know how to plan for success, except to search for the Lord’s will and then chase after it with all you are. It sounds like you are in a season of waiting right now and that it a very hard season to be in.

  2. I have been through a lot of tight spots financially. The biggest misconception is believing that you are out of options. You have to learn to humble yourself and ask till you can’t ask for more and still try other options. There are more than one way to cross a river, it’s finding the right way.

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