I’m just figuring things out.
I have times when I feel like I know pretty well how to be Mommy to my two boys.
But for the most part, I am walking through new territory that deceives me in its familiarity.
Let me elaborate on that one a bit. My two-year-old is in the business of challenging me. Seriously, it’s his job in Toddler Brain Development. While I have had this exact same argument before about why he cannot have anymore “jam-berries” (yesterday actually), I’m not actually sure that I know that I am responding the right or rather, most constructive way.
They say you should try to avoid using the word “no” and instead answer focusing on the positives.
Okay answer: “No, you cannot have more jam-berries. There might even be a scowl on my face.
Better answer: “You want more jam-berries, Shae can have more jam-berries tomorrow!” All bright and sunshiny of course.
And just when I think I am figuring it out, he figures me out.
The example that comes to mind is back when we first started “training” him to stay in his bed by wordlessly walking him back down the hallway, over and over and over… A few nights in, he realized all his requests were falling on deaf ears and he pulled out the Jesus card.
“Mama, say thank-you to Jesus?” You got me you little grub, I’m not going to cut off access to Jesus for you. Works every first time it happens and I get down on my knees and pray for that precious and “too smart for his own good” little boy.
You see, the territory keeps changing in the midst of looking familiar.
I think I have some aim to perfect motherhood. It’s the only thing that explains why I feel so dreadful when I don’t manage to make all the best decisions for my little ones. Seriously, who needs that stress???
These little grubby handed men, they got me wrapped around their little fingers.